Yesterday, I was gathering up the masses for a long morning of errands around town. Because we're in project mode. Again. (I can't wait to show you the progress in the basement! Finally!!) I told little Sarah to go fetch her (rugged) Keen sandals to strap on, so her chubby feet would be comfortable for an inevitably lengthy perusal of IKEA, which was on the morning agenda. She asked me if she could please wear her white Sunday shoes (tiny peep-toe slingbacks), but I told her no, because she might get blisters on her feet from all the walking. Her reply struck a chord with this beauty-lovin' mama: "But Mom, they're so pretty and they make me feel happy." She wore the white shoes on our errands, and didn't complain once as she clicked and clacked her way across the hard IKEA floors.
I, too, feel happy when I take a few minutes in the morning to put on something pretty. It usually isn't anything fancy or high-fashion, but if my clothes, hair, and face are in order, I feel more ready to take on the day's tasks...even if I'm only working inside my home. I have noticed that when I feel good about myself, my overall attitude is more positive, and I can turn my focus outward, toward serving others, because I have already taken care of myself. And truly, the atmosphere in my home is happier and more peaceful when I feel good. When I wallow around in my pj's all day (which admittedly happens more often than I'd like it to happen), I feel mopey and sluggish, and don't seem to accomplish as much.
Don't get me wrong, I can shoot hoops with the best of them, and I love to throw on a hat and hike up into the mountains. I don't wear make-up to the gym, and if you see me on a Saturday, I'll most likely be sporting my spandex bike-shorts, post-ride, or I'll be out with a big dorky sun-hat, covered in dirt, working in the garden.
(working in the garden photo, compliments of Sarah, who stole my camera for a spell)
However, I feel like it is important for me to embrace my femininity, and work at modeling that for my daughters. I want them to see me in my pretty aprons, scrubbing the kitchen counters or preparing a meal. I want them to be trained in the womanly arts of creativitiy and homemaking, and look forward to being a wife and mother. I want them to know that a woman's role in the home is of utmost importance, and that it brings joy and happiness. I want them to see me reading scriptures and good books and spending time studying history and writing, so they feel an excitement for education and learning. I want them to realize that a world-class education will enrich their lives and enable them to be a powerful influence on others, especially those whom they will train up in their own homes someday.
So, we spend time cooking, baking, gardening, and cleaning together. We read good books together...the kind that speak beautifully of motherhood and womanhood, such as the Little House series. We also spend time learning how to wash and iron and care for clothes, how to sew and knit pretty things, and how to fix our hair and exercise and take care of our bodies. These little girls often gather around, piled on my big bed, to watch me get ready for a date with dad or a dinner party. They see me deliberate over what to wear, and help me choose a fitting outfit and accessories for the occasion. They know that how we dress is an expression of our creativity, and reflects who we are. They love to choose what to wear each day, and they know how to match colors and styles, and how to dress modestly.
I want these girls to feel beautiful and feminine, and to seek beauty in the world around them. I want their outward appearance to reflect the divine beauty that they know lies within them. I hope that no matter their body shape, or hair texture, or eye color, they know that God created them in His image, and that they are special...and that they should use what He has given them to find joy and gratitude, and to be an influence for good in the world.
So, on the topic of femininity and clothes...let's talk wardrobe. (I had to photograph my newly-organized closet! woohoo!) Having a great wardrobe of wearable, comfortable clothes feels great! Here are a few tips I've learned over the years:
1. You don't need a lot of clothes and shoes to dress well and look great. This is top of the list for me. I'm definitely not a minimalist, though I strive to be one...but I've gotten pretty good at paring down when it comes to clothes. I grew up on a rigid budget, earning my own spending money from the time I could have a paper route. And then when I got married, my husband spent many years in graduate school while we were having and raising a family, so we lived on a tight budget as well. Not to mention that we've almost always had small closets! I've learned that if I had a few nice separates that can be mixed and matched, I can rotate them and dress well.
In my closet today: I have a few pairs of strait-legged jeans (to wear tucked into boots, or cuffed with sandals), one grey and one khaki pair of linen pants (to be worn wide-legged or pegged and cuffed), a casual tan capri, a black pair of pants, and a pair of wide-legged chambray pants. I have lots of tops to go with them, plenty of knits in whites and stripes. And some classic cardigans, wool for winter and cotton for summer. I have a few button-down blouses and fun jackets too. I have a chambray and a white long skirt, a couple of pencil skirts, and a few flowered skirts and dresses for summer. That's it.
And shoes? I love, love, love cute shoes. But if I buy good, classic shoes that won't go out of style, I don't feel the need to have a gazillion pairs. I keep a nice pair or two of ballet flats, a couple of nice heels, a pair of leather boots, a pair of rain/snow boots, and some nice summer sandals (two flat, and a couple of wedges or clogs). I find that if I buy a nice pair of shoes, it usually lasts for several years. (This summer, I splurged on some
Swedish Hasbeens...for those of you who asked, they were the red ones in
this post. And the nude ones in the photos below. I found them marked down
here with free shipping. Don't pay full price...they're pricey!)
2. Collect basic wardrobe staples that fit well, and make you feel great when you wear them. Having six babies in ten years, I know the
feeling great part can be tricky at times. Everything in my closet doesn't always fit me well. I still have a lingering 10 lbs. that I'm having a hard time shedding, so I have a box of smaller-sized classic clothes in storage. But I like to have at least a few pairs of pants, a few shirts, and a few skirts that fit well, no matter my size. If they are neutral/staples, they can be worn with any top and look great. And basics can be so inexpensive if you find them on sale or at discount or consignment stores. It really isn't hard to keep a few great looks in your closet!
3. Assess what you have in your closet at the beginning of every season. I like to look over my entire closet, try things on to see what fits well at the moment (see #2), and take an inventory. This usually keeps me from making impulsive purchases, because I have in mind what pieces I need (or would like) for the season, and what I already have that works. I generally make a few purchases to update for the season, or to fill in gaps when something doesn't fit right or seems worn out. I rarely shop in stores. Who has time? But when I need something, or see a great sale online, I take a virtual look at my
favorite shops.
4. Give away what you don't wear. If I haven't worn something in over a year, I give it away (unless it's a classic, and I don't fit into it well...in hopes of losing weight and wearing it later, it goes into the storage box. sigh...) This keeps my closet from crowding up, and cuts out the work of caring for mass amounts of clothing. Plus, someone else gets something new in their wardrobe!
5. If you can't find it, make it! I know not everyone sews, but this has been super fun for me. If I need another skirt or top or dress, and can't find one that fits well, I love to make one! There's something special about creating something from start to finish and then putting it to use. Plus, it usually saves money...especially on dresses, which can be expensive at retail stores. Sewing skills can also come in handy when something needs to be hemmed or taken in or refashioned.
6. Accessorize. It has taken me a while to get used to accessories. I only own a few pieces of jewelry, and besides earrings (the same pair every day), I'm usually too lazy to put them on! But lately, I've tried to collect a few belts and scarves to dress up my classic look. Target has some darling scarves for a steal right now!
So, these tips aren't rocket science, nor do I profess to be any sort of expert on the topic of wardrobing :). But I do feel better in all aspects of life when I take a few moments to put myself together and dress the part! Happy wardrobing to you and yours!
And just for fun, this was me yesterday, on my way out to lunch with my man.
Shirt from World Market, pants from JCrew Factory.
And we found a cool
hair tutorial link on
Design Mom. The girls and I played with those elastic headbands all morning yesterday, and I rather like the simple, twisty 'do...not a single bobby pin!
(photos of me by Sam)